"Svengali would either fawn or bully and could be grossly impertinent. He had a kind of cynical humour that was more offensive than amusing and always laughed at the wrong thing, at the wrong time, in the wrong place."
The Virgo man can be likened to such a character in many ways, particularly in love and relationships. In love, he tends to prefer a woman who is a "clean slate" of sorts. A woman who comes across as rather unassuming and somewhat plain, free of beauty products on her face and rather natural in character and appearance.
By now you may be thinking, "Oh, he prefers a natural beauty." Upon first glance, it may appear so. However, the reality is that his intentions run much deeper here and a woman like this tends to appeal to his creative side. Creative side, you ask? If you view a Virgo man through his perspective, you soon come to realize that he's drawn to a malleable (i.e. controllable) woman of sorts, one whom he can, much like an artist, place his colors upon as a blank canvas of sorts, building and caressing her into creation with each stroke.
His intended transformation of you may unfold in hurtful observations. If he doesn't like your haircolor, he may come right out and make a rude comment about it. If he doesn't like all the makeup you wear, he'll come right out and tell you how gross all that stuff on your face is. He'll get his point across and his Svengali like nature may compell him to do it in 'not so nice' ways that display his cynical hidden tendencies.
On The Flip Side
Slowly, he will begin to peel away the whore aspect of this mate and repaint her with his artist brush into his ideal vision of a Stepford Wife or soon to be soccer mom.
Either way you slice it, you tend to find a Virgo man stripping a woman clean so that he may rebuild her into something that fulfills his vision of her.
Virgo males are also drawn to taboo issues and will readily explore anything considered so. Their chameleon like tendency will cause them to completely reinvent themselves with the changing of each and every mate. When you dated him, he hated going to nightclubs and preferred sitting at home, complaining and watching movies or playing video games. When he moved onto his next mate, he turned into a carefree "Club Kid" who never spends more than 15 minutes in his apartment.
Virgo men also have a tendency to rub people the wrong way. It's almost as if, upon first meeting, people can sense the underlying negativity and his somewhat cold demeanor can put people off. There's also an underlying sense of "false" with a Virgo male in that, they are chameleons of sorts with different groups of people.
Because Virgo Man Tends To Feel He Doesn't Fit In
He will over compensate for that by attempting to become what the situation calls for at the moment. He'll be one way with friends, another with co-workers and yet another with potential mates. I had one Virgo male actually say to me:
"I don't like for my worlds to collide."
Any statement such as that immediately signals to others that there's "something going on here" that doesn't feel quite right.
Virgo men are a melancholy bunch and you can sense disapproval before he even opens his mouth. To say that Virgo male sees the world as an imperfect place would be an understatement. Obstacles, challenges, crisis and set backs are what he sees when he steps out into it. Virgo male feels he just doesn't really fit into it anywhere.
His idealistic view is what ends up causing him to be constantly disillusioned. When your expectations are high and unrealistic, you set yourself up for a fall and disappointment. The end result is emotions and feelings that set in, such as resentment, anger and frustration.
Everywhere Virgo man looks, all he sees are things that need fixed. The sign of Virgo is one of "service." And many a Virgo male can project this quality of service onto his mate. All those rude things or subtle suggestions he's making to you - he views as a service to you. He's doing you a favor. He sees where improvements can be made.
The zodiac sign of Virgo is a somewhat quirky, confounding one, particularly with regards to Virgo males. Some have even likened him to the "Charlie Browns" of the world, "Whoa is me" as well as prone to obsessive compulsive disorders and hypochondria. Their need for cleanliness can border on obsessive and many a Virgo man is constantly crippled by the thought that something is wrong - they're not always sure what it is, but it's wrong no matter what.
Virgo Men Walk Through Life Carrying A Heavy Load
And most of it is in their minds eye, thus giving birth to the "Charlie Brown" theme of "whoa is me."
A famous Virgo male is Michael Jackson. Looking at his life and how he lived it, you can see that his intention was always to be of service to others, however, his personality came across as quirky in nature to say the least. Rather than projecting his Svengali like tendency onto a mate, he thrust this tendency inwards and onto himself via the constant reinvention and never ending plastic surgery he had performed - always seeing room for improvement in himself.
Virgo is a mutable (changeable) earth (stable) sign, thus the constant theme of struggle in his life - constantly changing while fighting to remain secure. Virgo man harbors a deep sense of self loathing to top it all off. Many times, a Virgo man can tend to be a platform for women. Meaning, a woman may spend some time with a Virgo man, he may help (service) her towards improvements and then when she's achieved her pinnacle - she leaves him for another man. Cuckholding is another theme Virgo male is very familiar with.
His constant strive for perfection in life, particularly in relationships, can totally work against him. Especially where sex is concerned. A Virgo male, when engaged in the act, is so focused on his performance rather than his partner, that he can blow the entire act and fail to complete it. In turn, he becomes somewhat of a self fulfilling prophecy of failure. Worrying about perfecting it causes him to blow it and the cycle repeats.
It doesn't help that he's prone to be grossed out by bodily functions during the process as well and many a Virgo man will request you to appear to him showered and clean shaven before he'll even consider taking the leap to perform. As a result, sex with a Virgo can feel more like a chore than a romantic escapade and you can find yourself calendaring in sex with him. "Monday and Thursdays, shower and be ready."
Virgo Man Can Be Cool As A Cucumber In Relationships
He tends to keep his mate at arms length, leaving her feeling as if she never really did get to know this chap completely because he never let her in. And indeed, he does always keep a part of himself - to himself. Being with one for any amount of time, yo soon realize he's gone missing in action on you, either physically or emotionally, as he just seems "unavailable" to a degree.
But alas, when a Virgo man does decide he can live with you as you are and he gives in to his feelings of overall "lack," his sexuality can indeed burn hot. And being service oriented, when he's reached this level, he can be very empathetic to those less fortunate and very helpful in nature which, in turn, can be a real boon to the woman in his life if she's on the receiving end of this.
Virgo male is an Earth sign and, as a result, he can always appeal to you as a safe harbor of sorts. Even though his mind may not be stable, his lifestyle surely will be. Everything will have a place and be in that place and he will run his home like a well oiled machine, with all of his standards of living being up to par. Many a Virgo man leads a nice, clean, comfy existence for all intents and purposes. Flying by the seat of their pants, unafraid of where they're going to land is more a Sagittarius man's style than a Virgo mans. In the Virgo man's world, order and preparation is the name of the game.
I dated a Virgo male who wouldn't go to the grocery store unless a list was created first. He used up so many tablets and Post It notes, constantly jotting down notes, making lists and leaving letters with instructions each day that I had to buy them in bulk just to keep up. Something always had to be done (serviced, perfected) each day or it felt like a waste of a day to him. That was a long time ago and last year, I was cleaning and donating goods and I came across several of those notebooks. I sat down, thumbing through them, and I couldn't believe how much fussing was going on there, looking back on it. It was like the man couldn't shut his brain off and I must admit, when it was over with him, I was relieved. No more nitpicking, no more heckling, no more instructions, no more demands . . it was liberating.
The Chameleon Like Theme That Runs Through A Virgo Man's Life
If you come across this type, chances are he hasn't worked himself out yet and he is still wrestling and fighting all of his natural compulsions and, as a result, is leading a life that is completely opposite the one he truly is drawn to. And when you encounter this type, you may find him to be even more unbearable than the type referenced above because this inner conflict is always tearing at him subconsciously.
In a sense, with a Virgo man, you never know who you're going to get. You have to stick around and observe to really find out. A progressed Virgo male who has come to grips with this inner turmoil of his can be a real joy to partner with actually. Trouble is, it can take Virgo male a lifetime to come to grips with himself and his inner battles. Either way, Virgo male won't achieve his true success until later in life when he realizes his role and value as a provider of "service" to others.
It is then, and only then, that he will free himself - from himself - to fly free and succeed.